Being Yourself is "OK"Cupid

[tr1age]

Being Yourself is “OK”Cupid

How do you get the exposure to an online dating profile in a sea of hundreds of thousands without sacrificing integrity and a sense of self? When my dad met his wife via online dating there was a much smaller pool of people who knew what online dating was. Now it is normal for a profile to start with “My friend made me make this profile” Or “I figured, since so many of my friends use this, I would try it out”.

Now no matter what I write here, I feel like I am holding a loaded gun and it scares me. I find self proclaimed “people gurus” often have the least idea of what a person is truly feeling. I call it being observant. Would it be so bad to fall into a mold of just being a “creative person” and taking the risk of writing this article? Or is the gun going to go off in my pocket for my own dating life?

- See entire article at: http://lostintxtlation.tumblr.com/#sthash.tl1AHElI.dpuf

I would post it here but it won't keep the formatting.

 

[Milleuda]

Oh Tristan, I could write a book on this. I'm occupied at work but will plan to write a good response when I am able


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[Zakis]

Oh Tristan, I could write a book on this. I'm occupied at work but will plan to write a good response when I am able


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I agree...the experiences using online dating would make for an epic movie.

 

[Milleuda]

Thanks for writing this up and sharing your thoughts. In my early 20s I think I was on 3-5 different dating sites/apps at the same time and can relate to just about everything you wrote. I had mixed results with online dating ranging from some really horrible experiences up to one that led to a relationship.

You mentioned that society as a whole isn't ready for online dating, and I would agree with that. Personally I don't think I am ready for it. I thought a lot about this on the commute home from work today and think some of it has to do with my early childhood experiences with how Disney portrays romance. Without getting into it too much, I think I have some pretty high expectations and strict perceptions of how "romance" should be. There's just something about that smile from across the room, the wink on the train, or the nervous (yet exhilarating) small talk that is lost from online dating and apps.

At the end of the day, I want a love that consumes me with passion, adventure, and even a hint of danger. And I don't think it's impossible to find that online... I just know I didn't find that when I tried using dating sites. But I'm happy for you if you were able to be yourself on a dating site. That was something I struggled with back then, and perhaps it is the reason for my mixed success with online dating.

 

[tr1age]

early childhood experiences with how Disney portrays romance. .

The culture of girls being raised on Disney’s ideal Prince Charming and guys the perfect internet porn star, it is no wonder the wires are so crossed half the time.
- me

 

[ToxicAsF]

I want a love that consumes me with passion, adventure, and even a hint of danger.

Grindr sounds like the solution here.

 

[Milleuda]

Umm Grindr is nothing but trouble.


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[tr1age]

Grindr is a hookup app.

 

[Dup]

Lol just throwing my two cents in my wife and I met on a dating site I'll have to ask her which one I forget but before I started dating here a lot of the online dating stuff is a joke just because we base most of opions on a person within a few secs and pictures and a wall of text just isn't enough I feel for most... with that being said I do believe you can get lucky but it's hit or miss. Plenty of Fish was the site.

 

[zorph]

There's a difference between a dating sight and grindr just sayin.

 

[Euchale]

The problem is quite easy. The bigger the pool becomes, the harder it will be to get a good relationship. It´s all because around the corner could be somebody who is even better.