Ok... so, last Friday I turned 46. Yay me.
Not that I make a big deal over birthdays, but, that being said... I do expect to hear from certain people. My family, my closest friends, etc. Just a, "Hey, happy birthday you old fuck!" (<-- that was from Tr1age, THANKS! )
But, I also have been told in the past by the hubby that "I expect too much from life.", which I assume also means I expect too much from people. I have also been told that by others -- just expecting too much in general.
So, as much as I don't want to expect anything from anyone, it does hurt a bit when people you care about, and go the extra mile for, don't really acknowledge you on a special day.
HOWEVER, what makes up for that is when people you don't expect to remember, actually do.
I was out (from work) for my birthday, and today when I returned there was a giant yummy cupcake with my name on it -- it was huge, hence the sugar coma -- home baked by one of the ladies I worked with. She took the care to put purple sprinkles on it (my fave color) and even hand designed a card that she had everyone sign. She hand crafted it, it was beautiful! I was really touched by that.
My oldest sister (forgot), my estranged brother (always forgets), though even my Dad (who has early stages of Alzheimer's) remembered.
Anyway, my rant is this...
Is it wrong to expect recognition from certain people when you don't really make a big deal about it for yourself? What about expectations in general? Do you think we shouldn't expect anything from anyone?
Would love to hear your thoughts.
Kizzy
PS - A nice thing that happened on my bday... I went to lunch with my other (middle) sister, and the young fella that waited on us found out it was my bday from her. He said, "Wow, congrats on 23!" (being goofy, sweet, and hitting up for a big tip I'm sure.) When I said, "Um thanks, but double that," he genuinely looked surprised and said, "No way! Really?" THAT made me feel GREAT.
Not that I make a big deal over birthdays, but, that being said... I do expect to hear from certain people. My family, my closest friends, etc. Just a, "Hey, happy birthday you old fuck!" (<-- that was from Tr1age, THANKS! )
But, I also have been told in the past by the hubby that "I expect too much from life.", which I assume also means I expect too much from people. I have also been told that by others -- just expecting too much in general.
So, as much as I don't want to expect anything from anyone, it does hurt a bit when people you care about, and go the extra mile for, don't really acknowledge you on a special day.
HOWEVER, what makes up for that is when people you don't expect to remember, actually do.
I was out (from work) for my birthday, and today when I returned there was a giant yummy cupcake with my name on it -- it was huge, hence the sugar coma -- home baked by one of the ladies I worked with. She took the care to put purple sprinkles on it (my fave color) and even hand designed a card that she had everyone sign. She hand crafted it, it was beautiful! I was really touched by that.
My oldest sister (forgot), my estranged brother (always forgets), though even my Dad (who has early stages of Alzheimer's) remembered.
Anyway, my rant is this...
Is it wrong to expect recognition from certain people when you don't really make a big deal about it for yourself? What about expectations in general? Do you think we shouldn't expect anything from anyone?
Would love to hear your thoughts.
Kizzy
PS - A nice thing that happened on my bday... I went to lunch with my other (middle) sister, and the young fella that waited on us found out it was my bday from her. He said, "Wow, congrats on 23!" (being goofy, sweet, and hitting up for a big tip I'm sure.) When I said, "Um thanks, but double that," he genuinely looked surprised and said, "No way! Really?" THAT made me feel GREAT.