B: Don't EVER stop being who YOU are. That is so important for dating in general. I don't care what social "norm" anyone here says to abide by, "playing games" "taking your time" "not falling too fast" "taking it slow" "caring someone off" "walls".
Meta I think this really depends on each person. If they spend a lot of time together they will get to know each other a lot. Of course each person has to be on the same page, which, admittedly is different to do so early in a relationship. It's easy to say take things slow or one step at a time but sometimes and for some people (myself included), it's about going all in.
I think I need to clarify what I meant a bit. I agree with Tristan and Rux. A person shouldn't play games, hide his feelings to see if the other person likes him first, or break through the "You have to be with me for a year before I even open up to you a bit" type of walls to be with someone. But on the other hand I really don't believe in the "I'm like this, take it or leave it" mentality either. It's great when two people hit it off and both jump into something 100%. But what I'm saying is, is that that's not the norm. I'm not saying abide by the norm, I'm saying recognize what the norm is and move from there in the direction that is true to who you are in a way that does not push people away.
I think that it's that last part of that sentence that makes some people touchy. As if, if you change your approach that somehow you change who you are and are compromising or settling for less. Deciding who you are and what you want is an intimate, intricate problem which no one can answer but you. But deciding how you are going to get what you want is a completely different question. Here most people will say just be yourself and eventually it will work. And it's an advice that feels genuine and true but it's not really a specific step by step advice also it's not necessarily the most efficient way. People are different by their nature, by the experiences they had and by their environment. Plus they behave differently from one experience to the next and from one mood to the other. So what is wrong in being a bit flexible in approaching a person in a way that would make him/her understand you a little bit better?
You are not posing, you are not being fake, or compromising who you are, you are communicating who you are and what you want in a way that you think the other person will understand best. In the end doesn't that increase the chance of finding someone who is like you but maybe communicates a bit differently?
And here we come back full circle. Don't be so unbending that you think "This is who I am and this is how I behave and I don't care what you think" and on the other hand don't be so accommodating to other people that you are bending in ways that when you look back you don't recognize yourself either. I did both of those mistakes and can tell you that both will leave you with a broken heart. The truth is 98% of who we end up is just the people we are surrounded with and the remaining 2% is our own personal choice.
I'm aware that my opinion may be unorthodox and in the vast minority, but I felt like explaining myself as detailed as possible. That's because this all seems so familiar, and on the off chance you are like me, maybe it could help.
P.S. Just the simple act of self-reflection will help you more than you can imagine.
(Probably a poor outlook but it seems to be working for me. 
