Note- This thread has deviated almost entirely from the OP. We are still discussing stereotypes and misconceptions, but are now focusing more on Christians instead of homosexuals. Feel free to jump in about anything related without feeling obligated to read every post in it's entirety.
OP begins-
I was reading this article yesterday and it got me thinking again about the stereotypes of Christians and members of the LGBT community. In the article, an evangelical Christian decides that his homophobia is a bad thing and he is tired of it. Unfortunately, the only thing he can think of to do is pretend to be gay for a year and "immerse" himself in the culture. I'm reminded of wildlife videos where the intrepid explorer crawls into the burrow with the ocelots in hopes of being accepted into the clan. It seems that he was so far gone into his steretypes and fear that he couldn't even regard LGBTs as people who could be approached in a rational way.
I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home, and I am raising my children in a very conservative, Christian home. However, conservative plus Christian does not have to equal bigot or hater. Growing up in the 90's, homosexuality was still socially unacceptable. I didn't think about it much and I did not know anyone that was openly gay. I wouldn't say I was afraid, I just didn't think about it.
In my early 20's, I got a job as a security guard working overnight at a hotel. I became friends with the banquet manager there and would often help him set up tables and chairs even though it wasn't my job. Through our conversation, I eventually learned that he was gay and prefered to have relationships with married men because there were less strings attached for him. I was a year or two into marriage at the time, so that startled me a bit. I talked it over with my wife and I decided I would continue forming a friendship with him.
He seemed surprised when I came back. He knew that I was a Christian and had fully expected his admission to push me away. Not that he didn't like talking with me, but his experiences in the past had shown him that Christians were fearful and close minded. I tried to show him another side. We talked a lot about how we were raised and different eperiences that we'd had. I found that we were much more alike than different. I never condoned his lifestyle or said it was acceptable, but I tried to show that God's agenda and my agenda was not to make him straight, but to have a relationship with him and show him unconditional love.
Too many Christians regard homosexuality as the ultimate evil, an unforgivable sin. But that's not Biblical. Certainly, the Bible says that homosexuality is an abomination, but the Bible speaks just as strongly against lying, adultery, and immorality in general. Heterosexual immorality is no less sinful than homosexual immorality. Too many Christians look down their noses at the LGBT community and say "Thank God I'm not like THEM." It makes me sick because I know that I have been guilty of just as much or more than anyone in that lifestyle.
We Christians have cloistered ourselves for too long. Jesus did not hide from sinners, he sought them out and ate with them in their homes. He did not condemn them, but spoke the truth with compassion; He offered forgiveness and healing to the brokenhearted. I applaud the man in the article for stepping out of his comfort zone. Maybe now he'll be comfortable being himself around those that are different from him instead of shielding himself with lies.
OP begins-
I was reading this article yesterday and it got me thinking again about the stereotypes of Christians and members of the LGBT community. In the article, an evangelical Christian decides that his homophobia is a bad thing and he is tired of it. Unfortunately, the only thing he can think of to do is pretend to be gay for a year and "immerse" himself in the culture. I'm reminded of wildlife videos where the intrepid explorer crawls into the burrow with the ocelots in hopes of being accepted into the clan. It seems that he was so far gone into his steretypes and fear that he couldn't even regard LGBTs as people who could be approached in a rational way.
I grew up in a very conservative, Christian home, and I am raising my children in a very conservative, Christian home. However, conservative plus Christian does not have to equal bigot or hater. Growing up in the 90's, homosexuality was still socially unacceptable. I didn't think about it much and I did not know anyone that was openly gay. I wouldn't say I was afraid, I just didn't think about it.
In my early 20's, I got a job as a security guard working overnight at a hotel. I became friends with the banquet manager there and would often help him set up tables and chairs even though it wasn't my job. Through our conversation, I eventually learned that he was gay and prefered to have relationships with married men because there were less strings attached for him. I was a year or two into marriage at the time, so that startled me a bit. I talked it over with my wife and I decided I would continue forming a friendship with him.
He seemed surprised when I came back. He knew that I was a Christian and had fully expected his admission to push me away. Not that he didn't like talking with me, but his experiences in the past had shown him that Christians were fearful and close minded. I tried to show him another side. We talked a lot about how we were raised and different eperiences that we'd had. I found that we were much more alike than different. I never condoned his lifestyle or said it was acceptable, but I tried to show that God's agenda and my agenda was not to make him straight, but to have a relationship with him and show him unconditional love.
Too many Christians regard homosexuality as the ultimate evil, an unforgivable sin. But that's not Biblical. Certainly, the Bible says that homosexuality is an abomination, but the Bible speaks just as strongly against lying, adultery, and immorality in general. Heterosexual immorality is no less sinful than homosexual immorality. Too many Christians look down their noses at the LGBT community and say "Thank God I'm not like THEM." It makes me sick because I know that I have been guilty of just as much or more than anyone in that lifestyle.
We Christians have cloistered ourselves for too long. Jesus did not hide from sinners, he sought them out and ate with them in their homes. He did not condemn them, but spoke the truth with compassion; He offered forgiveness and healing to the brokenhearted. I applaud the man in the article for stepping out of his comfort zone. Maybe now he'll be comfortable being himself around those that are different from him instead of shielding himself with lies.