Assuming this is relating to MMOs, of course. The "hardcore" MMO gamer mindset makes no sense to me.
It's something you have to experience to really understand. When something requires actual effort to achieve or having success isn't just handed to you, it's that much better to everyone, even the people who don't have "great success" or don't put in the work required. When everyone is striving to be above the norm, it keeps interest, for those who are above and those who are trying to be above it.